MY IDOL:: PRAMATH MALIK

MY IDOL:: PRAMATH MALIK
HE NEVER SHOWED ME A PATH TO FOLLOW BUT ALWAYS INSPIRED ME TO MAKE ONE FOR MYSELF!!

Friday, August 22, 2008

FRIENDS::are we close or we are closed

finally i am drawn back after long long time.
every time i try to reach this place back i get lost because this is just as "the room of requirement " of the harry potter.you can not forcefully reach here ..its only when you are spontaneous and words are strongly felt you pick this blog space.
My path to it was guided by a strange feeling tonight aroused by personal demeanor to the linked listing of testimonial reading on the popular social networking site orkut.
I started to wonder what has happened to the term :friendship.
when the college started we joined hands to walk straight towards our common goal with fresh promises of being best buddies and closest pals.we gave short and sweet names to each other,worked diligently to make each other happy with tiffins and ice creams,small meets outside college that bashed about ridiculous Hindi movies,good Hollywood flicks in few joints of pizza hut,food court and baskin robins.
Gradually they grew up to birthday treats as well where people discussed about ridiculous college,absurd timings,opposite sex and hangovers .
The extended hands were together when few chose to make 'someone special' from the communion itself where "joining hands" turned to "holding hands" and tender caress.
what we materialised as Da kewl gang turned into a stabilised and well fomented icon of friendship
the cellphone cameras and 'pics/snaps' folder on laptops were flooded with pictures that could make celestial promises of staying together forever forever.....forever.
But what happens next.. does life takes a toll?did the boat in which all of us were sailing towards the common goal toppled?were we lost during the earthquake? or was it a tornado that swept us all and carried us in its wings to different direction so that we can never be together again?
NO nothing of that sorts ever happened, yet very tactfully and skillfully very similar to the way the Pangea became the continents we drifted miles and miles away from each other .............................
The gathering that were there, turned into a ritual to be performed just in order to pretend that we are still close.The discussions became endless and pauses turned into 'hey wazzup'.why these Communions don't seduce my spirits and has remained the way of pleasure retention for my soul like they were before.why has the same people not remained with us?
And today the miracle child asks me why did this happen?was it deliberate?was it holding all grey and ulterior motives?
Are we still close or we have closed and done with all this ?
My answer is though far fetched because even i have failed to understand that when we became friends we had things in common,now we turned out to be absolute strangers in terms of traits and behaviour.Friendship was not a forced hackneyed idea for us.It was a contemporary concept where we picked them unlike our ancestral bhajans and keertans yet we have failed to perform the friendship ritual faithfully as well......
Do i need to say we are absolutely confused genes which lacks the trend of introspection .
NO i am not done ..i wish to express more but then i cant bear it along because i am also one of the culprits !!

20 comments:

Anonymous said...

ha ha... i saw an ad some days back

"Change is better, refreshing, healthy etc etc."

so is the "change" in friendship that u refer here... i may be wrong coz mujhe kuch jyada samajh nahi aaya wat u were feeling while this bloging.

anyways ha ha haaaa u must be a piscean... unhi k paas aise faltu cheezon ko manipulate karne ka khali time hota hai (LIKE ME ha ha haaaa :))

o.k. sorry for theze P.Js if u r serious this time

anyways... good written.. point to be observed.. the change frm 1st yr to 3rd yr in "friendship" and "JUST GOOD FRIENDS"

Anonymous said...

i really like dis one..its jus so true..

miracle child!! said...

deepna @thanks
i hope i touched the right chord (if i did)

miracle child!! said...

ankur..you worte a comment about what you felt after reading my blog..similarly i wrote about what i felt after looking at the situation ..got the point ??
and chill you are free to speak your mind...mai badle lene nahi aunga :P:P
thnks for reading anyways !!

Anonymous said...

hey really touching but i think when we were in our 1st sem we were together because we liked each others company. we enjoyed together. someone moving out or in didn't bother.

but now we formed something called as "groups". we want more commitment out of friends. people moving in and out has started bothering.

its like when you try to hold sand in your palm it slips away much faster. so dont worry letgo. true friends will always stay. n they are the ones that matter.

and what sort of pshycological crap is this. [:P]

Anonymous said...

hey yar its a serious one tht yeah we r all culprits to this version of friendship
n its been practised everywhere

dnt know what the thing was tht drifted us apart but i cnt blame on one thing to strt wit

whatever be it but there always comes a time when we only cn improve on
i forward my hand towards to get the best tht we shared when we strted
lets make a new begining and whenever things happen like u said start fresh
my new number is 9962575901

miracle child!! said...

hey anuj your comment was kind of very use ful because amongst all my readers you were the one who could actually see that i was` trying to ask you the solution and explaination to the cause i have mentioned ...
thnks mate ...your cmtmnt wala point is very true !!
maybe the reason is true :)
thnks for reading!
yeah it is crapy but then very much associated to us !

miracle child!! said...

hey anuj your comment was kind of very use ful because amongst all my readers you were the one who could actually see that i was` trying to ask you the solution and explaination to the cause i have mentioned ...
thnks mate ...your cmtmnt wala point is very true !!
maybe the reason is true :)
thnks for reading!
yeah it is crapy but then very much associated to us !

miracle child!! said...

hey..Mr anony i was surprised to see that you have mentioned your number ..
may i know who you are because i hate to say but i am really running low on balance ...
hope to catch your identity soon...by the way thanks for writing and reading !!

Aseem .... said...

hmm , i think its more of a personal thing.... depends on people... i;m a type of person who most prob wont stay in touch, heck i dont call even when we're in the same college...

some are lazy , some are drifters, some dont judge a person well... we made friends on the first day cause we were new and didnt know anybdy, an intial interaction with some grows to friendship and it stays till we get to know everyone better .... groups get divided into sub groups etc...

some people realise they;ve been with the wrong people... some want a share of the limelight and try and expand their friend circle....

i know fr a fact that even you have a lot of friends whom you'd rather not go out with or talk a lot , do you not know the reason , different it may be for all ?? :D

The chosen one said...

touching yet illusion..
u were never forced to attach strings to the whole populatn..nobody tammed ur soul n mind to fall in a trap as slippery as dis one...
emotions befool us yet dey hv deir own place n space in our lives..
ppl wil cum n go like ur breath,cherish d one in ur lungs..
don flow wid d flow,b proactive n act like one..
tc..

Y.S.K

miracle child!! said...

aseem@i expected a more hard to digest reply:P:P
what you are speaking of is the symbiosis fundamental
but then division of it is not by mutual consent ..
and speaking on personal note you are equally annoying ...and yeah u r the laziest bum ever been found ...and worst kind of social homosapien ever been created

miracle child!! said...

yashbeer@ hulo champ you lare swinging in ..good going boy you aint doing that bad...time to host a full fledged blog..ABOUT YOUR COMMENT..
well your comment is better than the post i have written :) and iam serious about it..is it plagarism ...then i will kill you because this is the highest honour i could bestowc:P:P

Anonymous said...

i think i'm late in reading this one..

you've put in words some of those questions which i always keep askin myself( i guess most of us do)..

i think its vry difficult to define the word friendship..cos it is associated with 'Expectation'..and there's no end to it..
wen the friendship is new the expectation is less..so every thing is as u said 'KEWL'...but with tym the ppl who know u the best will hurt the most cos u'll expect more out of them..

but despite that they'll be the ones who'll always stay ...
this is wat i believe..

nicely written...

miracle child!! said...

esha@
thanks for bothering to read and comment....
yeah it seems expectation is the source of all pain...better not expect...or maybe as little as possible...
but in some cases its really about the ego clashes....and domination..i wish i could explain you better about my perspective!!

miracle child!! said...

here is what deeksha had to say ::ok..... here comes the comment!!
well i hav nt experienced anythin of such a sort until i discovered u!!
my journey wid my frds has been enrichin till nw and i hp it will remain the same... u made me realise a diff meanin of frdshp which i was abt to believe bt then i met ppl who def changed ur bloody meanin .. frdship is the most beautiful thing on earth and i luv all my friends!!

miracle child!! said...

ANKITA ::
"well this is the best post i hav read so far..........and at least it is true in my friendship with u:)"
I can handle your comments so better post them here...rather than trying to mend things :P:P

Aseem .... said...

The above 3 comments validate my point ... also confirm why you wrote this post....

but then division of it is not by mutual consent ..

As i said, if it varies with different people then it;ll never be mutual :P ....

what you are speaking of is the symbiosis fundamental

If its fundamental , stop dissecting and analysing it :P ..

Unknown said...

hey............
jss read ur blog afta longg tym......;)
i thnkk frnshipp iz sumthngg wch happenzz wit lil mutual consent by both d ppl involved......bt, i dun thnkk tat evr it shud hav boundatnzz wit it.....if so itz neva true frnship....itzz abt hw mch u knw a person rather than wot tym u devote ta 'em.........evn spendng mst f d tym may nt win u a frn coz hezz nt d 1 u had wished 4.....n it reallyyy depenzz on d choice f d frn u have made tat dey stick arn or dun.......u r nt ta b blamed if u r left alone bt, yeah a lesson learnt is alwayz useful in lyf.......
i wish sch xperiences r nt a part f ne1zzzz lyff......n to some xtent i do agree a lot wit wot aseem haz mentioned in hz 2nd n 3rd para.....
4 ol d rong in frnship d only help 4 one cud alwayz b ta speak out den n dre;)

Anonymous said...

well.... back with another comment....


If it really hurts u or u r confused or bla bla,.... and if u want a "really" true friend...


than use ur unexpected imagination and creativity... make a frnd of ur own... in ur own world .. an imaginary frnd...(like JOHN NASH in A BEAUTIFUL MIND, oscar winning movie), or ("BAPU" of Lage raho munnabhai)

this frnd can be what u want -- an ideal but imaginary frnd... usse jo expaectation and commitment chahiye.. obvoiusly u'll find it in ur frnd... u can share everything with him(or her... depends on ur imagination) :) so njoy